CHILD BOUND TO REGULATION

Things that need to be applied in an effort to discipline children:

• Start with the small stuff first, then gradually to the next level.
• The beginning of the discipline is good and simple communication.
• Consistent with the rules of discipline that has been made.
• Consistent between the father-mother so as not to cause confusion in children. Make agreement on the rules to be followed at home.
• Apply the reward and punishment (punishment).
• Giving orders and rules must be accompanied by an explanation of why this, why it should be so.
• Accompany children to do what is told to create a fun atmosphere, for example, when children were told to clean up her toys.
• Engineering discipline is used, you should wear a loving dialogue and warmth.
• The language used should be simple, let alone the child is still quite young children. Use the language the child (based on animistic thinking child). Thus, the child will be able to accept it.
• Rules of discipline is such that the danger from outside / the downside could be minimized.
• Consider the child's age. Rules of discipline will vary at each level of the stage of development. When still young (just 1-2 years), patience is absolute because they tend to be egocentric. So, it's known.
• Respect your child's feelings and do appreciate the time.
• Give options / alternatives.
• Confidentiality rules of discipline so as not to drop the self-esteem of the child.
• Early Warn about anything that had to do so he can get ready to rule.
• Give the command firmly and more specific.
• Emphasize the positive things.
• Disagreements better directed at the child's behavior, not the child itself.
• Give an example / model is good because kids can emulate the behavior of their parents. Thus, not only as old oang enforcement rules but also the implementing rules.
• Include a sense of humor.

The things to avoid in trying to discipline children:

• Too often give threats (especially in children who are good) because he will actually return challenge.
• Disciplining children in an emotional state.
• Disciplinary rules that force, authoritarian, violent and very tight.
• Always say, "I want ..." (for parents).
• Parents do not discipline themselves, so that the child would imitate.

The rules are important as giving reward to the child:

• The prize is given to a specific purpose, as an encouragement to children to keep their behavior or achievement is good.
• When you aim to change the behavior of children should not give gifts of goods, except for the first time in a long period of time, for example, when children go to school, buy bags or books.
• If your child already likes the gift item, change the attitude of the patient, persistent, and consistent. Changes to non-gift items must be done gradually and do not force it.
• Cohesiveness between the father and the mother in giving rewards.
• When will reward non-goods, do solemnly, Dalma sense of affection, such as hugs or kisses were sincere.
• Consistent in non-gift-giving items.
• Non-gift items must be proportionate, efficient, and timely.
• Conduct an evaluation after the prizes are awarded, if there is reinforcement behavior in children.
• Reward should not be superfluous.
• Reward good leads to positive reinforcement.

The rules are important when giving punishment to the child:

• Do not give to children who are classified as toddlers because they do not understand the reason why they were punished, as a result they can be frustrating.
• The punishment should be educational.
• Inform in advance that there is a specific sanction of the unpleasant behavior of his parents.
• Hold a penalty awarded after evaluation, if there is a change of consciousness in the child.
• Do not do punishment under the influence of uncontrolled emotion.
• Avoid physical punishment.
• Give sentence with the firm. When children whine faint hearted and do not immediately give up.
• Note the correlation between the punishment with the behavior.
• Corporal punishment is seen as a last resort.

Some facts why gift items can be ineffective:

• Children become materialistic.
• Children become consumptive.
• Parents may come up short.
• Children behave well not because of self-consciousness, but because of the desire to get the goods.
• Some facts why corporal punishment can be effective:
• Children become frustrated.
• Children can become resistant (immune) to the sentence.
• Children tend to let themselves be punished rather than committing to expect him.
• Children tend to vent his frustration at the sentence with hitting other children.
• Cause long-term psychological effects, in which anger, hurt and annoyed would be buried forever by the child.
• Will build a sense of helplessness (sense of helplesness)
• Children will not learn anything from corporal punishment.

Neither reward nor punishment, nor the origin of the origin is given, it must mapu build / strengthen the concept of the individual self. Given time of reward or punishment must immediately when the desired behavior / undesirable happen. Do not put it off too long.