I saw one of his students in the neighborhood where I live is very studious. So much so, he could not take the time to play with his peers. Demands that so many schools have made it to linger in the room to transfer the information in the book into the brain or memory. I am very sorry for the students. Why? On the one hand, the student is honed cognitive ability. But on the other hand, he had a lameness or paralysis of the emotional (affective). Life is like riding a bike, it was important to maintain balance. If the balance is not maintained then it will fall.
Seeing these students, I suggest to parents to help set the time, so he is not stuck in the room, while his friends were busy playing. What he did not realize, that the play was also part of the learning process.
As we know, human beings actually have creativity, feeling and intention. Therefore, when only creativity (IQ) are sharpened, then there is an imbalance. Then what happens? Obviously, the effect of the pattern of education which only focuses on creativity (cognitive / IQ) alone and ignore the feeling (affective / EQ) and intention (action) will be felt and seen when the child grows up. The child will be paralyzed social. Why do I say socially crippled? Social Paralyzed occurs when the child is not able to establish relationships in their social environment. In fact, in every association in the community, both socially at work, social organizations, socially at school and others definitely need to build relationships and collaborate with others. Could ultimately hinder the development of her potential.
Is it not our basic needs as human beings to work together. By working together, we actually open up many opportunities to learn many things. That way we can increase the opportunity to explore ourselves. Here lies the importance of relationships and social interactions.
First, parents are directing their children to hone his IQ. Therefore, a high IQ is defined as the higher the level of intelligence (and the recipe said to be successful if a high IQ). However, a new consciousness that eventually emerged was other intelligence that can not be ignored, namely emotional intelligence.
The balance between cognitive intelligence (knowledge), feelings (affective) and action (action) will build on the strength of good character himself. The characters themselves are very important role. Therefore, the character itself is a way of thinking and behavior that is typical of individuals to live and work with its surroundings.
Sometimes, the character of a person feels out of balance. There are people who have brilliant ideas but are unable to cooperate with teamworknya. It shows the person has a good IQ intelligence emotional intelligence was bad. There are also people who have the brains, he's also good, but lazy to work. It indicates the action is weaker than his IQ and EQ.
The characters themselves will be more powerful if all three aspects are met. The characters themselves are good this will determine the decision process, behavior and way of thinking. That will ultimately determine our success. See, a Nelson Mandela won sympathy with the idea of peace. Mother Teresa shook the world with his love and concern for each other. Bung Karno with ideas, tenacity and intelligence still feels for us Indonesian people who have gone through years of the millennium.
All of it is a manifestation of the strength of character they have. This confirms that a person's character determines individual success. And according to the study, just 80 percent of a person's success is determined by their emotional intelligence, while intelligence intelegensianya got a 20 percent share.
Building a Character Strength
In every individual has the character of each. The neighborhood has an important role in the formation of character. Our character, has an important role in the life process. Therefore, the character of controlling our thoughts and behavior, which of course determines the success, the way we live, grabbed obsession and problem solving.
Actually, each one of us has a distinctive character. And that character quirk is the strength of our character. Therefore, the distinctiveness or uniqueness is what separates us from other individuals. The entertainers will spread the spirit, the regulator will manage the organization. Those who are wise and do not like conflict can be a peacemaker. It all is strength of character. And, each character will be needed in any society, whether social work, or community organization.
Remember! Strength of character to be built from scratch. Build strength of character can be done through either character education in the school formal, non-formal or as families and communities. Character education is given through the planting of character values. It can be knowledge, awareness or willingness and action to implement those values. Output character education will be seen in the creation of good relations to Almighty God, ourselves, others, the environment, the public and others.
Character education is not only theoretically given at school, but also need to be applied in everyday life. So it will become a habit. Habits are proof that the education provided has been pervasive in a person. When eating to be polite, when going to bed to read a prayer, when out of the house to say goodbye, perseverance and spirit obsession and realize aspirations, to be honest, be kind to animals and plants, do not litter and other places.
Build strength character done by involving all elements. Therefore, each element will have an effect in the formation of individual character. A child will imitate and identify what is around him. Positive role models will form a positive character role models and instead will form keprbadian negative and negative characters. Therefore, every element of the environment should be built in a positive way, so that the child's character is formed in a positive way as well.
Then how to build strength of character is that? Strength of character will be formed by itself if there is support and encouragement from the surrounding environment. Imagine a stick, will not have the power to dispel waste. However, if it is supported by hundreds of stick, others will form a force to clean up the yard. So is the character will be stronger when supported by the environment. The role of the family, the school, the community is very dominant in supporting and building strength of character.
Strong character will ultimately contribute optimally in every social interaction. Thus, individuals with strong character-it would contribute both morally or spiritually-that are constructive for the surroundings.